I think that Yolanda and John got married only because the felt that it was a better option than breaking it off. It seems to me like they were more comfortable with eachother than "in love". On page 20 it describes how Yolanda and John were living together off and on for three years and finally decided to, " get married or make a clean break of it since they were getting on in years and both imagined they wanted a family."
This makes me believe that they were thinking, "what the hell? We might as well just do it because we're not getting any younger". I think that these two were in love at one point, but little by little started to change the love they shared for eachother with comfortability. Yolanda seemed more in love with the way her family looked at her because she was with him than who he really was. He continually pronounce her name wrong eventhough she showed obvious annoyance by it. He couldn't give her the satisfaction of answering a harmless question about the Chagall painting. It was obvious that John didn't show that he cared that much for her.
Yolanda craved love and being in love. When she thought of the love that her grandfather had and still has for her grandmother despite all of their crazy arguments, it sadened her. She wanted to have that same divine love for herself. I feel that on page 23 when John calls her and they have a warm exchange that they are both just feeling lonely and vunerable. They obviously care about eachother, but in think its only because having someone in your life for so long you grow to care for them as family. This is why I think she has a moment of weakness. She wants to just give in and give it another go because the thought of not having someone to hold or children to wipe their drooling faces when they're older scares her.
Just because you stay with someone for so long doesn't mean that you love them. Sometime when someone is in a relationship for a long time they are just used to the repetition. It just becomes another part of your daily routine. Yolanda wanted passion and romance and someone to grow old with.
At the end of the story I think it becomes abundantly clear to her what love really is when her grandfather thinks she is her grandmother. He hears her say it is me Yolanda. He then smiles, takes her hand places it on his chest to where his heart was. He Brings her heard down to his face and kisses her over and over. He says "Now it is all fixed between us, now it's all fixed" I belive it is there that Yolanda learns what divine love truely is. From her grandfather's forgiveness of her grandmotherfor all the nasty things she had done to him. He still loved her and that is what she had to look forward to in her future.
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