Monday, September 17, 2007

In my opinion, I think Yolanda is wrong for wanting to divorce John. I think both still had love for eachother, but both are too proud to say it. Indications that John still loves her come up when Yolanda says, "It's all your fault, you know. If you hadn't married us twice, we could just tear up our Dominican license and call it a day." John in response to her comment says "hardly" this means its not that easy to just get divorce and forget about her. He then goes on and says "this has gone on long enough. My answer is no. N.O." Although the way he says it is a bit insulting, it's all a facade, and his own way of saying he does not want their marriage to end. The quick change from "hardly" to the dogmatic response following that, makes me think he says that to cover up the emotional breakdown he almost had. John in my opinion is just as stubborn and proud as she is, the only thing is he doesn't know how to express emotions. I am curious to know more about how John feels, because to me he comes off as a character who builds a wall and doesn't let people in, especially Yolanda. At one point in the story Yolanda realizes this because she says "Perhaps the Englishman doesn't really want a divorce, for why wouldn't he cooperate in this effortless procedure that won't cost him anything? Is she sure this divorce is mutual or has she flown off the handle again as she used to when she was a child?" I think a lot of us sometimes build up a wall against others, maybe we do it subconciously, but we do it because we are scared of rejection, or getting hurt. I noticed also that Yolanda has a fear of ending like her aunts, "miserable, but married" Although, Yolanda has made a drastic decision by divorcing him, and I don't think she should have done that, I do think both needed time apart, to see if they missed or even loved eachother. John has no idea that she still loves him, that she lays at night thinking of his touch, because she is too busy fighting with him about the divorce. She wants the divorce so badly, that in the end any love John might have had for her was killed by that desperation of wanting to get rid of their marriage. Why do think Yolanda is so desperate to have John sign the divorce papers?

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